Let's talk about sex, baby
Let's talk about IUDs
Let's talk about all the contraception
And the options that may be
Let's talk about contraception baby
So let's talk about sex, actually more specific contraception.
Even though I've lived in the UK since I was 14 and feel very British, when it comes to all things womb and sex related I feel very European in my attitudes. Considering that a lot of British humour is based around sex it's funny to me that in the UK you don't more openly talk about the ins and outs (oh god sorry for even writing that) when it comes to sex and especially contraception.
When I went to the GP at 18 and asked for the pill it was a no nonsense appointment with very little information given to me. The GP asked me whether I'd considered any other options besides the pill, when I said no he simply nodded and filled out a prescription for the pill.
My mum knowing I had a long term boyfriend, booked me in to visit a gynaecologist back home in Germany that same summer. If I was mature enough to have sex then I was also mature enough to go to the gynaecologist and make sure I was healthy. Nothing about the appointment was embarrassing to me. When I told my doctor that I was on the pill she wasn't thrilled and warned me that it wasn't a long term solution. When I mentioned that lots of girls in the UK get the implant she told me that girls in Germany didn't get them. As it turns out, in Europe the coil (specifically the copper version) was the go to.
That conversation had played on my mind for a long time after but I didn't act on it. The pill seemed like an easy solution so I kept chugging it. For four years nonstop. I'd go back to back to avoid having a period if I had a holiday planned and didn't really put much thought into what the extra hormones were doing to my body.
But after a blood test which flagged up the negative effects of the pill and then more recently being contraception free for almost 1 and a half years, I was amazed at how much better I felt being off it. I've been concerned about using hormonal contraception, and with the pill's links to an increased risk in blood clots and depression (see here and here) I thought it was time to take a new direction and not go back.
After lots of research and chatting with friends, I booked my appointment to get fitted with a coil, specifically the copper coil. The copper IUD (intrauterine device) is almost 99% effective, lasts 10 to 12 years before you have to get it replaced, and because it doesn't have hormones it negates some of those nasty effects you can get from the pill. There is also a hormonal version of the cooper coil which lasts about 5 to 7 years and would be an option for you if you struggle with heavy periods.
Research is your friend and you have to go with what's comfortable to you. Every body is different and we all have different preferences. It's important to know that you have choices and you shouldn't feel as if you're limited to just one avenue.
"Do you have sex with men or women?" "Both?" "When did you last have sex? "Oral?" "Give or receive?" "Have you done an AIDS test before?"
"Do you just want to come back another time or are you happy to wait for the Dr?" "If you let me leave now I'll never come back."
"Oh no your modesty blanket has flown away!" "At this point I really don't care I'm sure you've seen hundreds of vaginas."